Mother of two... going it alone
June 20, 2012
How could I be afraid of being alone with these two precious faces??
It's been two weeks since I had Lincoln, and today is the first day I'm going it alone.
I was lucky enough to have my husband home with me for two whole weeks, but today he had to return to the office. What's worse? I have to venture out of the house because we are almost out of diapers... so much for easing into it.
Funny how going out of the house with two requires so much thought and preparation... do I take the tandem stroller, or leave the baby in the carseat and use a cart? Or maybe I should put the baby in the sling... What time should I go? It has to be planned around feedings and naptime... What do I need to put in the diaper bag in case of emergency?... I'm exhausted just contemplating it all.
I was pretty fearful about taking care of them by myself a week ago, but after a couple of trial runs this week, I'm not so scared. For the most part, I think I need to focus on having patience with my toddler. The baby is easy, albeit demanding. Mia, on the other hand, requires a watchful eye due to her constant curiosity.
Other suggestions I've come across for handling two on my own are:
- Leave work behind. We have maternity leave for a reason. Turn off your cell phone and computer and enjoy just being with your kids; it will only last so long. I am finding this much easier to do the second time around, since I already have experience in how quickly the newborn timeframe flies by.
- It's ok to let the house go. I have crazy OCD about cleaning up my house... but I need to relax and let go of the laundry and dishes and floors once in a while. I can't be supermom right off the bat (although I'm sure I will subconsciously strive for it).
- Carve out time for yourself. Don't forget to get out of the house on your own every now and then. I recently went to grab some groceries (alone) and stopped for coffee on the way at the suggestion of my husband. That coffee in my quiet car may have been the best 20 minutes of my life. It's amazing how renewing it can be to get out of the house without the kids or to catch up with your girlfriends. We are more than just moms, after all!
What are your suggestions for adjusting to life with 2 or more kids?